The world of escorting is complex, where boundaries between personal and professional lives often blur. One of the most awkward and potentially risky situations an escort might face is when a client recognises them outside of their work environment. Whether it's a casual encounter in a coffee shop, at the grocery store, or even at a social event, this situation can raise concerns about privacy, safety, and how to handle the interaction.
If you're an escort and find yourself in this scenario, here's a guide to navigating the moment with confidence and professionalism.
Assess the Situation Calmly
The first thing to do when a client recognises you outside of work is to remain calm. Panicking or overreacting can escalate the situation unnecessarily. Take a moment to assess the situation: where are you? How many people are around? Is the client alone or with someone? Understanding your environment helps you gauge the appropriate response.
Evaluate the Client's Reaction
Not all clients will approach you the same way. Some may act as if nothing happened, while others might feel awkward or unsure about what to say. It's important to read their body language and tone to decide how best to proceed. If they seem casual and respectful, it may be a simple acknowledgment of the situation. On the other hand, if they seem intrusive or pushy, it's a sign that you should be cautious.
Set Boundaries Firmly and Politely
This is a gentle but firm way of redirecting the conversation and reinforcing that you are not available for further discussion.
Decide Whether to Acknowledge the Client
You don't have to acknowledge the client if you don't feel comfortable doing so. If you do want to engage with them, keep the conversation brief and neutral. Some escorts prefer to avoid any conversation about their professional life outside of work, while others might take the opportunity to quickly and politely acknowledge the client and move on.
For example:
This way, you’re acknowledging the situation without encouraging further interaction.
Know When to Leave the Situation
If at any point you feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or the situation starts to escalate, it's important to remove yourself from the scenario as quickly and calmly as possible. Trust your instincts—if you feel like the client might try to push the boundaries of your privacy or safety, it's always best to leave. Saying something like:
In extreme cases, don't hesitate to alert others around you (friends, staff at the location, or even security personnel if necessary).
Have a Plan for Future Encounters
It’s important to have a strategy in place for future encounters with clients outside of work. Here are some tips that can help:
These steps are designed to help you feel in control of your privacy, safety, and personal life.
Consider Your Emotional and Mental Well-being
Being an escort can sometimes take an emotional toll, especially when personal boundaries are crossed in unexpected ways. If the experience of being recognised outside of work affects you negatively, take time to reflect on it. Talk to a trusted friend or a professional if necessary to process your feelings and maintain a sense of emotional well-being. There are a plethora of services available of which two are listed below:
Respect Your Client’s Discretion
While it’s important to maintain your privacy, it’s also essential to remember that your clients have a role to play in this situation. Most clients who recognise you outside of work will likely want to avoid awkwardness or complications as well. Some might even avoid acknowledging you altogether, understanding the need for discretion. However, there’s always the chance that someone may not respect your boundaries, and that’s why it's important to stay firm and clear in your communication.
Conclusion
Being recognised by a client outside of your professional setting doesn’t have to be a stressful experience if you approach it with confidence and awareness. By setting boundaries, assessing the situation calmly, and maintaining control over your personal space, you can ensure that your professional and personal lives remain separate. Above all, prioritise your safety and well-being in any interaction, and trust your instincts to guide you through the situation.
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Author: Roxy
For: Langtrees.com
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“If an escort and client both know each other they will both know what to do or say....sure its a bit awkward sometimes they will have a laugh n chat and then go ahead, then leave the room as nothin different has happened . its known that some clients will run extremely fast if client know escort for reasons like knowing the family etc, even if one tries to convince the client what happens in room stays in the room.”
“Well....call me lucky or unlucky but in almost 2 years of working at Langtrees as a receptionist I have never seen a client outside of work. I already know that I certainly wouldnt acknowledge them unless they wanted to be recognized. What happens at Langtrees stays at Langtrees! ”
“No strings attached is the old saying. One night of fun and then leave it like you never knew each other”
“I think the absolute golden rule should be that you don’t approach one another. If you’re a client and you recognise an escort, you don’t know who she is with or what they know. Equally, if you’re an escort and you see a client, the same applies, particularly if he hasn’t mentioned a wife, partner etc. I was recognised by a receptionist many years ago when out with my partner- we had a fleeting glance the both went on our way. Both lives can be seriously damaged.”
“I'm a receptionist at Langtrees, I have run into 2 clients outside of work. One client turned away straight away, so I knew from his body language and facial expression that he did not want to acknowledge me. The second client I ran into out side of work, chased me through the shop. I had to say, good to see you, I'm in a hurry see you at work. Read the play everyone.”
“I would think its best for both parties that there is no acknowledgment of knowing one another.”
“As a client, discretion works both ways. If I saw an SW outside, I would probably do nothing but if we were both in a place without anybody around us and I was happy to be chatted to, I may just give a nod of acknowledgement and see what happens. A few escorts I have known I have chatted by email outside of work, and only after being emailed and been asked a question about a certain city or advice regarding things other than sex work and nothing personal.”
“Such a good blog! Thank you for posting such a helpful guide to help combat what could be an awkward situation. Thankfully I have never encountered a client outside of work but the thought of it does worry me from time to time because I have grown into a very private person and discretion is so important in our industry! ”
“Good read and good advice. Thank you for the guideline”
“I had bad experience once. This was about 2 years ago. I happened to be standing next to someone I recognised at a strip club in the City. I asked her if she new who the girls name was on stage, and she started to tirade on me and call me a weirdo etc. I think she wanted me to tip the girl on stage but I had only just arrived at the venue. She was attending as a patron, just like myself. I was quite shocked at the experience and it ruined my night. Mind you I never mentioned I knew who she was, and I never booked her before, but I had been thinking about it. After that experience I avoided booking her and coming to LT, until after she had left, or I didnt see her adds on here. Thankfully, I’ve since come and met some welcoming ladies. I know that its honest work in the industry, and we all have needs. I pay when its required and for those that ive experienced know im quite respectful and understand it as a profession. That same night I booked a dancer, tipped and went home. That experience didnt keep me down, but it was still shocking. The reality is there are people good and bad out there. That was a random encounter and i just met the person behind the mask. Unfortunately all she did was lose a customer, but someone else gained one. And sometimes it just pays to always be decent.”
“Oh jeebies I’ve had this happen! I had a client call me out by my work name while I was with family! Thankfully I was able to get myself out of it. Next time I might not be so lucky. I think it’s etiquette for people to leave a transactional relationship behind closed doors. In my opinion, if we meet at Langtrees… our relationship stays at Langtrees. At most, a smile and nod. But the level of anxiety this can cause us is unbearable.”
“Thank you for this guideline and tips. I have not encountered any escorts outside of work. But perth is a small city and all these guidelines are perfect. Giving them their privacy is paramount as it keeps the relationship in a professional manner.”
“I usually travel roughly 40-60 minutes to visit escorts strictly so I don't accidentally run into them around my local area and on 3 seperate occasions not only are they from my area I've either met/seen them before or have seen them afterwards. It's always and awkward wide eyed smile and walking off in the opposite direction. The latest is a young chick working as a Barista. She remembered our conversation and made my drink that I told her about when we spent a few hours together. I almost forgot to pay because I was too conflicted on whether I should dip out or try my luck.”
“This is so true, I work in reception at Langtrees and have on 2 occasions seen clients outside of work. One client didn't know where to look and the look on his face showed me he didn't want to acknowledge me. I just looked forward past him and kept going. The other client kept saying hi how are you every isle, I even missed an isle, I ended up saying I'm in a hurry, you can catch up with me at work. So it can affect everyone, not just the working lady.”
“I recently had a moment when I recognised (not in person) a friend of one of my close friends on a popular WL site. Seemed all professional and well set up, so I assume she’s been doing it a while. Recognised her out of Facebook photos my friend had posted. Obviously I’m not going to say anything, either she knows or she doesn’t. Not my place. Bit unfortunate tho, she is definitely the kind of girl I’d like to see, but knowing that they’re friends and we could possibly bump into each other at a party or something puts me off. ”
“Thank you for sharing this great post and tips on how to navigate meeting a client outside the professional workplace. I haven't encountered bumping into clients outside of work as yet, however expect it may happen, and these are great guidelines on how to manage the situation respectfully. ”
“This is such a solid guide! Running into a client outside of work can be so awkward, but having a game plan makes all the difference. I love the emphasis on staying calm and setting boundaries, this is super important! The reminder to trust your instincts and put your safety first is really key, too. It's also been really interesting to read everyone's personal experiences with this. Good to see everyone is keeping it classy. Thanks for sharing this, super helpful!”
“The times that this has happened to me have been brief. A discrete and quick wink and cheeky smile is my preferred method of engagement when I've been spotted out and about, or just keep walking. Our clients are well-respected people and I'm thankful for their discretion. ”
“Met an escort many years ago at a private apartment in East Perth, immediately recognised her as the nurse at the hospital who tended to my son at birth for 3 days. We did not acknowledged each other but I reckon she is aware because she is my eye candy in those 3 days/nights. Dream came true indeed ”
“Thank you for writing this blog post, I really appreciate this information and advice. I have always been so scared of being recognised in public by a client which is a big reason why I don’t work close to home and prefer to tour where I can feel at ease. Thank you for sharing the story in the comment section Mrs Langtrees, sounds like that lady was an absolute professional – extremely well handled. Such a close call!! ”
“This is a great article for learning respect on both sides, both from a client's point of view and the working lady. Luckily I have not been recognised out in public yet, but I worry about the day that happens!”
“I’ve seen the odd escort out and about and always played the poker face….but that changed a few years ago after having organised a staff, “team-building” cooking class. I arrived to find an escort I had seen a few times recently was the chefs assistant. Recognition was immediate and we played it cool, but it wasn’t long before a few flirtatious comments (by her initially) were made and the repartee was clever and funny. Dare say it was very soon after I met her again…and to this day we continue to meet regularly.”
“When a guy recognises a WL, have some respect and keep walking. Nothing gets me more than when a jerk tries to get a moment of cheap thrills by trying to get some validation of speaking with her. She is not on the job, and she may be with family. Please have some respect and leave her alone in these scenarios!!!”
“Great advice! Navigating encounters outside of work can be tricky, but staying confident and setting clear boundaries makes all the difference. Prioritising well-being and discretion is key.”
“I remember a case when we were escorting 40 years ago. Our office was in Midland, and I had a new lady starting who lived in Bunbury. I asked her to stop in Manduarah and call from a phone box in case we had something on the way to the office. She called, and we had an escort. I sent her to a Mandurah address. I waited for her to call in, but she was about 15 minutes late. When she rang, she said the client was an Uncle of hers that she hadn't seen in 10 years. I said how did you handle it? I said I just found out where you lived, Uncle, so I'm dropping in to say hello. He was uncomfortable expecting an escort, so she left after 15 minutes and called me. I rang the client, said she was delayed 20 -30 minutes, and sent a girl from Rockingham. This lady was brand new at escorting; she handled it with aplomb and went on to have a busy night. She worked with me for 6 months, had enough for a house deposit, and left the industry.”
“I had a very awkward situation I was at crown one night with my partner and she recognised a lady she used to work with a few years back and went over to talk to her. To my shock and horror it was an escort that I had seen a couple of months before and she recognised me and played it cool. She did txt me later and said my secret was safe with her as long as I didn't out her as an escort which I wasn't going to do. ”
“Ran into an Escort i had seen a couple of times in bunnings on day, she was with another not sure how they were related but the look on her face was priceless. You could see she didn't want me to acknowledge her so i just wheels straight pass but she turned back and gave me a wink. ”
“These are all very good ways of dealing with unexpected encounters outside of the work environment. And I hope for most girls it goes as smoothly as you’ve laid it out. However my experience was very akward and could’ve potentially been very damaging as I was with family members. I simply pretended it was a case of mistaken identity and I didn’t know who they were. It’s also important for clients to assess our situation and to not approach us when it’s clearly inappropriate timing. ”
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