A man reached out to me the other day. Didn’t ask for anything, just needed to talk, quietly, no agenda, no ego. He said he sees working girls sometimes — not for kicks, not for power … just for peace.
His words stuck with me: “It’s not really about sex. I just want to feel safe.”
Safe, Seen, Maybe touched in a way that doesn’t feel like a transaction or an obligation. I’ve thought about him ever since. My heart breaks for this man. He’s not soft. He’s not weak. He’s the kind of man who shows up, day in, day out. Pays the bills. Stays loyal. Keeps his promises.
And still — he sleeps next to someone who barely looks at him anymore. At home, touch is rare. Eye contact’s a miracle. Sex? Sure, sometimes - but it’s controlled, withheld, timed and when it comes, it feels like charity — like she’s ticking off a box.
So he walks through your door, not to cheat, not to betray, but to remember what it feels like to be wanted. Just for a bit.
Because you see these men. Not the loud ones trying to flex. Not the drunk ones showing off. I mean the quiet ones. The men who sit a little too still. Speak a little too politely. Carry a kind of sadness they don’t know how to name.
You see:
You see the wreckage — but you never call it that. Somehow, you hold space for him even when he can’t quite say what he needs, even when all he can do is sit there, staring at the floor, trying to hold it together. You give him something money can’t buy: presence.
Can I ask you something real? How do you manage this? Do you know straight away when he’s one of the hurting ones?
Does it weigh on you when a man walks in carrying everything he’s too ashamed to tell his wife? Because I feel it — and I’m not even in the room.
So I can’t imagine what it’s like to be the one holding that space.
These aren’t bad men, they’re not creeps, not looking to get their rocks off. They’re just… done. Empty. Lonely in a way they can’t explain to anyone else.
They come to you because you’re the only one who sees them without judgment. I’m not trying to glamorise it. There’s nothing poetic about pain when it becomes your daily reality. But I reckon we need to talk about it more — because this is happening.
Men are showing up in brothels not for thrills, but for connection, for a moment of warmth … and that deserves to be acknowledged. Because when a man’s last place to feel human is a room he’s paid to enter — What does that say about the rest of his life? And what does that do to the women who meet him in that moment?
You might not always realise it, but you’re holding up more than just a business. You’re holding men together. You’re giving them the smallest window back into what it means to feel wanted. Even for a moment ... That matters. And it stays with them long after they leave.
And to the man who messaged me: You’re not weak. You’re not broken. You’re just carrying more than you should have to, alone. There are others like you and if you’re reading this — you’re not invisible anymore.
To the women who know these men and still choose to show up — How do you do it? I’d love to hear your stories. I think they matter more than most people realise.
Author: Master Yoda
FOR: Langtrees.com
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“Such a powerful message, Master Yoda. It’s so true, sometimes people just need to know they’re not alone in carrying that weight. Your words are a reminder that no one is invisible.”
“I’m really grateful to come across this blog post. I think it’s one of the biggest misconceptions in a brothel, the dynamics between a man seeking intimacy and the professional woman he feels drawn to in the establishment. I think for a lot of men they’re unsure of how to get the closeness physically (but not necessarily sexual) and also emotionally. I’ve had a lot of clients speak honestly to me about a lack of connection in communication, spirituality and relationships. I saw a client who told me he chose me because I seemed very authentic and kind, and once in the room and just sitting and talking he opened up that his partner had passed away a few months prior. He just wanted to feel connection and be close to a woman’s energy. He told me he was grateful for Langtrees being a professional establishment where he come to find that. I’m grateful for moments like these where I know I’m happy I was chosen to talk about life and loss with a man who needed support. There’s so many cliches when it comes to the sex industry. There’s not so many times the light it shone on experiences like these where you see the intimate and personal side of the work we do. Thank you for the opportunity to share.”
“On so many occasions with clients I am always reminded that this is 9/10 times about communication, companionship and .. held .. an hour of being seen. A true pleasure is too spend time with a man who is going through so many hurdles and stressors in life and be able to take all of that away for him for an hour or 2 - seeing a man that walked in with heavy shoulders and weights on his feet walk out smiling and a spring in his step is literally a Joy to see xx let’s us be your naked therapists x ”
“This article hit me right where it counts, when a man isn’t just chasing the moment, but searching for something real. It reminded me that sometimes our presence becomes the lifeline someone didn’t know they needed. Thanks for shining light on the beauty of being there in more ways than one.”
“This post impacted me more than I anticipated. It offers a raw, compassionate, and deeply honest perspective. Many men silently grapple with grief, not stemming from personal failure, but from emotional deprivation—a topic that often goes unaddressed. The women at Langtrees provide more than a service; they contribute something profoundly human: presence, care, and genuine connection. This aspect is significant and worthy of acknowledgment. The blog illuminates a quiet form of suffering and the strength required to recognise and honor it. Thank you for sharing these insights. ”
“Great read Master Yoda..... ”
“ Powerful read. It’s a reminder that sometimes, it’s not just about sex — it’s about someone silently reaching out, needing connection, comfort, or simply to feel seen. This blog hits deep.”
“To the women who do this emotional labour, thank you. You’re doing more than most people ever realise.”
“This article delves into the complex depths of men who carry the weight of unspoken pain. When men hide their pain, they will experience various problems. A deep sense of emotional, potentially related to his relationships, sexuality, or personal struggles. It’s like carrying a huge load of worries. They come to you to talk openly about their mental health struggles because they know that you’re the only one who sees them without judgment. Be a friend and listen to them, talk to them, and support them. It can make a big difference to them.”
“Brilliantly articulated Master Yoda, deeply felt.”
“When a man is emotionally overwhelmed, he may seek connection not solely for intimacy, but as a means of finding support and solace in a difficult moment. ”
“This is one of the most moving, compassionate pieces I’ve read in a long time. It shines a light on the quiet, aching loneliness many men carry and the often-unseen emotional labour performed by sex workers who meet them with dignity, not judgment. This isn’t about sex — it’s about survival, connection, and being seen. The way this blog honours both the men who are silently drowning and the women who offer them humanity is powerful. Thank you for giving voice to something that is rarely discussed. It matters. And I hope more people begin to truly understand the depth of it.”
“ A man wants peace, not sex—longing to feel safe, seen, and wanted. Thank you”
“Thanks, Master Yoga, I understand how it feels. A man reached out, not for sex, but for peace. He just wanted to feel safe, seen, and wanted. You see these quiet men, carrying unspoken pain, offering them warmth and presence when they need it most. Thank you.”
“Thanks Master Yoga for another great read - very insightful indeed”
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